Never gonna stop laughing at fragile white dudes calling marginalized people "soft" for actually holding them to standards of behavior


@spideyj Also, it’s funny to me - I love being soft! I am soft-hearted and gentle AND fierce as hell. Having firm boundaries and policies allows me to have the safety to be soft.

@brittag that kind of softness actually requires a lot of emotional strength and flexibility which is definitely lacking on the parts of dudes who have a hard time with content warnings and pronoun pins

@spideyj @brittag not enough 💖 for you both and for this conversation! 💖 💖

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