the design of twitter & other follow-boost services like tumblr or mastodon is fundamentally untenable and will always create conflict on such scales that people will feel like their only response is violence

@yisraeldov Hi neighbor, we haven’t met. I’m Clarity. Is this a joke? It makes me uncomfortable.

@clarity Yes, I was hoping it was obvious it was a joke. I left another instance because they condondoned violence. I am very pro conversation and anti violence/force, no matter how uncomfortable the conversation may be.

@yisraeldov I'm glad to know you didn't mean any ill by it.

However, jokes that take the shape of parodically reflecting the things that I hate in the world back at me make me uncomfortable, because the line between irony and sincerity is blurry and often intentionally obfuscatory (such as in the way that people do "mock racism" to hide that they are, in fact, racist). I need to be able to trust that the people in my spaces mean what they say.


@yisraeldov I know many others feel the same way as me. I'd appreciate it if you, moving forward, applied some care to what kinds of humor you use when interacting with people you don't know.

@clarity I hear what you are saying, but I doubt that I will change my sense of humor.

@yisraeldov I didn't ask you to change your sense of humor. I invite & encourage you to make any sorts of jokes you like within your own communities. Like I talk about in my thread, I don't expect you to be responsible to me, a stranger, when you're posting on your own timeline. I can choose to avoid it on my own terms.

But you replied to me, and without any chance to prevent it, that has left me feeling even more frustrated and tired after already dealing with a lot of stress today.

@yisraeldov I am worried that this will happen again, with other strangers. I want the world to have less harm and conflict, so I've asked you for your help towards that. Does that make sense? Does this ask make a problem for you? How can we meet both of our needs here?

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