being a parent of a non-binary kid
They checked the "trans" box on the school form for lack of any other way to describe their non-binary but maybe transitioning but maybe not selves. As a cishet parent I'm more shocked the school system lacks any sense of what non-binary looks like on a simple form.
Why I'm not at XOXO
I am planning on coming in 2019, though.
Why I'm not at XOXO
I love the community, but then May happened. I was dealing with a new job, friends getting assaulted at another conference and not being able to say anything, and a million little things. I pulled myself off the XOXO Slack because I couldn’t be my best self, and the stumbling around wasn’t making it easier. I'm mentally in a better place, but I don’t feel ready to re-engage with the community without putting my foot in it. I ended up donating my budget to the free pass fund.
One of the hardest lessons I've learned in growing up is no one gives a shit what you think 90% of the time, so as a man your job is to LISTEN first and provide input when asked.
I think for us raised in the patriarchy we're just used to the world listening to white men first, so we just plow right on through.
LISTENING is hard for us, though. Please be mindful that some of us are trying.
What I will miss about Twitter:
-The scale and power of the social graph they built
-The way you can mingle with your heroes like it’s a polite garden party
-All the ways I have helped and been helped
What I not miss about Twitter:
-All these Nazis
-United with TERFs
-And the most unempathetic leader in American history
-All combining to make a toxic community of racist, sexist, homophobic, and downright awful people
-Did I mention Nazis?
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