@microwavenby I looked it up. it comes out in October 2019. I pointed out how it was funny that he heard it was terrible, as it's not out yet. someone else looked it up on Rotten Tomatoes, where it was overwhelmingly rotten. "funny", I said, "how everyone knows it's so bad without having seen it".
he admitted that someone on YouTube told him it was bad. "huh," I said. the argument ended.
Trans thoughts, on certainty
One of the things which really delayed my willingness to explore transition was the narrative of "I've always known". I haven't always known, so that to me meant I probably wasn't trans.
Then I had a conversation with a friend of mine very recently, and she told me that it was never clear to her that she was going to become a woman, or whether she was butch or femme. Her transition instead was a series of small experimental steps, seeing how it felt, and then taking the next small step that seemed clear and obvious from her vantage point at that moment.
It was so important for me to hear that, as someone whose experience of gender is characterised by uncertainty and ambiguity. Transitioning doesn't have to be one single, big decision. It can simply be following a gradient of small certainties to whatever conclusion you arrive at.
I don't believe that everything happens for a reason. I don't think it would be a good thing if there WAS a reason for all the shit that goes down in the world. a god who works in ways this mysterious would be an all-powerful monster.
however... about the only thing that makes me feel okay about having had to suffer gym classes and the boy's locker room is the knowledge that, without the everburning furnace of barely-suppressed rage and contempt for straight men that experience gave me, I wouldn't be nearly this powerful
Talk to me about games, woodworking, kittens, or software plumbing problems!
My software compiles to binary, I don't.
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